Using Debtors Anonymous to Help You Manage Debt
What
is Debtors Anonymous? Debtors
Anonymous (DA) is a twelve-step program of recovery for persons
who compulsively incur debt. It is a self help support group
for those who desire to live free of all forms of unsecured
debt. The program is modeled after the twelve-step program
of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). DA was started in 1968 when
a core group of AAs met together to discuss their problems
with money. Initially, they felt their problems originated
from their inability to save money. Later, they came to believe
that their problems did not stem from their inability to
save money but from their seemingly constant compulsion to
borrow money. They came to think of their condition as a
disease, much like a chemical addiction, where the act of
incurring debt is the threshold. The primary purpose of the
DA program is to stay solvent and help others to achieve
solvency. At the heart of the program
are its meetings. DA meetings are conducted autonomously
in cities and towns throughout the world. Anyone may attend
an open DA meeting. Generally, the meetings feature talks
by persons who share their impressions of their past problems
with debt and their present recovery in DA. DA conducts
beginners' meetings for anyone who believes that he or
she may have a problem with compulsive indebtedness. Other
meetings are not open to the public.
What
is a twelve-step program? Copies
of twelve-step literature can be obtained at most
meetings. Additionally, many bookstores also carry
the book Alcoholics Anonymous, referred to as the
Big Book. DA uses the AA Big Book as a guide and
resource, replacing the word "alcohol" with "compulsive
indebtedness" when reading. The
steps encourage a spiritual approach to recovery,
which starts with an admission that you are powerless
over your addiction. Belief in a power greater
than yourself, such as a god or other spiritual
being, is suggested. Introspection, self improvement,
and a willingness to make amends are also part
of the process. The best way to better understand
how a twelve-step program works is to attend meetings
of DA and speak to DA members.
What
must you do to join DA? The
only requirement for membership in DA is
a desire to stop incurring unsecured debt.
There are no dues or fees for DA membership;
DA is self supporting through voluntary member
contributions. DA is not allied with any
sect, denomination, politics, organization,
or institution; does not wish to engage in
any controversy; and neither endorses nor
opposes any causes. DA's primary purpose
is to stay solvent and help other compulsive
debtors achieve solvency.
How
do you know if you need DA?
You
are probably the only person who can
determine whether you have a problem
with compulsive indebtedness. However,
the following questions are designed
to assist you. Ask yourself the following
questions and keep track of how many
you answer with yes.
- Are your debts making your home
life unhappy?
- Does the pressure of your debts
distract you from your daily work?
- Are your debts affecting your
reputation?
- Do your debts cause you to think
less of yourself?
- Have you ever given false information
in order to obtain credit?
- Have you ever made unrealistic
promises to your creditors?
- Does the pressure of your debts
make you careless of the welfare
of your family?
- Do you ever fear that your employer,
family, or friends will learn the
extent of your total indebtedness?
- When faced with a difficult financial
situation, does the prospect of borrowing
give you an inordinate feeling of relief?
- Does the pressure of your debts
cause you to have difficulty in sleeping?
- Has the pressure of your debts
ever caused you to consider getting
drunk?
- Have you ever borrowed money without
giving adequate consideration to
the rate of interest you are required
to pay?
- Do you usually expect a negative
response when you are subject to
a credit investigation?
- Have you ever developed a strict
regimen for paying off your debts,
only to break it under pressure?
- Do you justify your debts by feeling
superior to others and that when
you get your break, you will be out
of debt overnight?
According to DA, most compulsive
debtors will answer yes to at least 8 of the
previous 15 questions. If you answered yes
to 8 or more of these questions, then chances
are you have a problem with compulsive debt
or are well on your way to having one.
How
can you contact DA?
Generally,
you can find DA, and listings for most
twelve-step groups, in your phone book.
If you can't find a listing in your local
book, call directory assistance and ask
for the DA listing for the major city
or town that is closest to your home.
You may also find DA meetings listed
in the community calendar section of
your local newspaper or in community
events bulletins. What
about other twelve-step groups?
There
are many types of addictive behaviors
and many different adaptations
of the original twelve-step program
of Alcoholics Anonymous. Many groups
focus on money matters specifically.
Gamblers Anonymous, Shoppers Anonymous,
and Spenders Anonymous have active
memberships in many towns and cities.
Other twelve-step programs, such
as AA, Narcotics Anonymous (NA),
and Cocaine-Users Anonymous (CA),
do not focus on money problems
specifically, but well understand
the devastating effect that addiction
has on a person's financial stability. If
you find that your financial
life has become unmanageable
and you attribute any part of
your problem to a form of addictive
behavior, then you need to seek
help. Filing for bankruptcy or
winning the lottery may solve
your problems but only temporarily.
If you cannot change the behavior
that got you into trouble in
the first place, then you will
soon find yourself in trouble
again. For someone unfamiliar
with twelve-step programs, the
fundamental differences between
many of the groups mentioned
above may appear insignificant.
Fortunately, there are no dues
or fees for membership, and most
twelve-step programs have special
meetings for newcomers. It will
cost you nothing but your time
to attend a few meetings to determine
whether and where you fit in.
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